ROMANTIC
RELATIONSHIPS
©©©©©©©©©©©©
Have you ever been involved in a romantic
relationship? If yes, do you know you are involved what kind of love? Well,
there are actually many types of love. However, above all, there are 6 major
types of love. They are eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania and agape.
 |
| Source: http://melissaphillips.wordpress.com/2014/02/13/whats-love-got-to-do-with-it-2/
Now, let us look at a more details for the types of
love.
You are an EROS lover if you love you companion due to
her beauty or his good-looking, handsome face. At times, the beauty you are
looking for is not attainable in reality.
For a LUDUS lover, as they seek for entertainment
and excitement in their partner, they may have tendencies towards sexual aggression.
It is more like a game-playing or uncommitted love. Those people who pursue
ludic love may have many conquests but they remain uncommitted.
STORGE is a slow developing love. It is a
gradual process of unfolding their companion’s thoughts and feelings. Change in
this relationship is slow and it is difficult to define the stand of their
relationship at a stand of time.
Social qualifications are important for those who
are into a PRAGMA
love. For example, in Asian countries, it is essentially vital for man to own a
house, a car and have a sustainable job before he can marry the woman of his
dreams. Pragma lovers choose their partner carefully and have realistic
romantic expectations.
A MANIA lover is obsessive with his or her
partner. They want to be possessed and loved intensely. Most people who are individualists
and have a low ambiguity society tend to fall into this category. They frequently
think “I am very lonely” or “I need a man/woman to love me”. However, when they
do, they will have paranoid thoughts such as “She only loves me because I’m
wealthy” or “Will he leave me for another prettier girl?
AGAPE love is usually associated with
spiritual love-the love towards our God or the love of a parent to their child.
This is the most selfless form of love.
|
 |
| Source:http://www.reliancechurch.org/2012/02/08/agape-the-perfect-love/ |
Regardless of what type
of love you are in right now, love actually enhance all forms of verbal and
non-verbal communications. Love also encourages a deeper level of conversation.
This is love and communication.
Just like friendships, in
Part 1 of chapter 9, love is also influenced by culture, gender and technology.
In culture and love, across the universe, depending on culture love is interpreted
and practiced differently. Take America as an example, lovers are more intimate
and more active in showing their love. They would buy flowers for their loved
ones and even express their love to their partner in front of the public. In
Asian countries, love is a taboo
topic until the individuals have reached a certain age. We could say that love
takes a more passive position in Asian countries.
On gender and love,
both men and women love differently. Men are known to be a more eros and ludic
lovers and women are mostly pragma lovers. Lastly, just like friendships, the
meaning of love is weakened by the growth of technology too. WHY? Well, nonverbal cues and verbal
cues are deteriorated by the cold and digital texts and messages sent through media
such as emails, text messages, Facebook and Twitter.
That is all about romantic relationships and always
remember this:
“Loving
someone and having them love you back is the most precious thing in the world.”
-The
Rescue by Nicholas Sparks-
No comments:
Post a Comment